After miscarrying twice in a row I began to realize that maybe things weren’t 100% how they were supposed to be. My O.B. again re-assured me that miscarriages were completely normal – although miscarrying after seeing a heartbeat is a little less common, and that 2 in a row could just be bad luck. However, the next time around we would try a supplement with a hormone – just to make sure that I had enough to get the placenta going. I was happy with the idea of doing something. Twice I was fairly certain I was pregnant – but in my attempt to stay calm and not jump to any conclusions I forewent a pregnancy test until I was 2 weeks late. Both times I started although I had been dry heaving in the morning. I’m still not sure if they were more miscarriages or extreme nerves.
Within 6 months, I was expecting again. This time we held off on telling anyone except our parents. I took a pregnancy test the day I was late – and we started the supplements right away. Oh. My. Gosh. They were awful – morning sickness, if it could be, was even worse. I began losing weight instead of gaining. We started IV’s at home daily – which pretty much put me to sleep, so I could only take them at night, but they did help.
We finally made it into the 2nd trimester. It was amazing! I suddenly felt better and felt like I could be a person again. The best news was the baby was healthy – movements were normal and a placenta could be seen on ultrasound – and I could quit my hormones. Yeah! We decided to just wait and not find out what we were having this time….
And later that winter added a 2nd baby girl to our clan. She was beautiful and sweet and filled my gap of wanting a sibling for my first daughter. I felt a huge relief that we had finally figured out the solution to the miscarriages and that all would be normal business from here. Even though I felt like we had found the “solution” I was determined to never experience a miscarriage (or morning sickness) again. Oh… if life were that controllable!
I dived into “healthy eating” and made some serious changes to our diet. (I had been borderline with gestational diabetes during the pregnancy.) We cut out soda 100%, switched from white flour to fresh ground whole wheat, cut down on meat and upped the veggies. I know there is a lot more you can do with your diet to be “healthy”, but that was about all I knew at that point. I began making all of our food I possibly could from scratch. When our second daughter was 1 1/2 we decided to try for another baby. I was pregnant within 2 weeks and no miscarriages this time! My pregnancy definitely was different. No IV’s were needed, although I still went through about 2 months of serious morning sickness, but overall it was slightly better than my first pregnancy.